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Working with Anger and Aversion - (Mindfulness, Insight, Liberation) 15 mentions

• clear about that deep down and to see it as suffering to be very clear that this is this is suffering
• and to see it as suffering to be very clear that this is this is suffering cause of suffering it is suffering
• clear that this is this is suffering cause of suffering it is suffering but as i said anger is complex there's a
• in retaliation acknowledging the suffering of anger is also not
• it's not the case that to acknowledge the suffering of anger and as a force of suffering it's not saying that we never
• the suffering of anger and as a force of suffering it's not saying that we never set boundaries and we never change a
• absolutely anything so it's very human and there's suffering involved
• overreaching all practice is what is it that leads to suffering and what is it that leads to freedom
• and what is it that leads to freedom from that suffering so that's a consistent background and foreground
• this question he kept coming back to that suffering for ourselves and suffering for others and that was his
• that suffering for ourselves and suffering for others and that was his sort of rule of thumb for practice
• energies anger and aversion to actually relieve some of the suffering well there's a lot that we can notice
• practice is what suffering am i building unnecessarily this is
• absolutely fundamental question to practice what's suffering am i building unnecessarily and is it possible to just
• and aversion on and causing all this mayhem and suffering in our lives not understanding that

A Wise Relationship to Practice - (Meditation on Emptiness) 15 mentions

• lenses contemplating three characters takes some of the suffering out of experience
• characteristics should decrease the suffering in that moment and should also decrease the self-sense and we talked
• um when the suffering is less and when the self-sense is less it then re it then
• itself becomes kind of a a good snowball in that in that space of less suffering less self-sense it's actually clearer to
• possibilities seeing the three characteristics seeing the suffering go down a little bit seeing yourself since
• that yes this this i can really see that suffering itself since gets less because we're going to build on that and so it's
• that word if we're using that word to hold it but without suffering over it gonna hold a notion of developing
• progress deepening etc but not actually suffering much with it sometimes as teachers you know we say in
• middle of a retreat that the difficulty in the suffering is actually just seen as a hassle and not as an opportunity
• when we have a difficulty and when when we're suffering or something isn't going the way we want it when they're
• the way we want it when they're suffering actually seeing as an opportunity and taking it and working it
• before this is happening is that happening is a little less suffering it's fruit here and now and we repeat
• i'm not convinced that delusion brings suffering if i'm not actually convinced that
• strong relationship between delusion and suffering i won't be so interested
• practices as i said i'm not asked it's a suffering sometimes goes out so since there's some

Approaching the Dharma: Part Two - Liberating Ways of Looking - (November Solitary) 15 mentions

• just knowing because i can know that i'm suffering i can know that there's a lot of suffering i can know i might even
• suffering i can know that there's a lot of suffering i can know i might even know there's a lot of reactivity going
• sometimes it doesn't i know i'm suffering i know i'm reactive don't seem to do much
• and with that self view is a whole other level of tightening of suffering of compounding of the dukkah
• from from unnecessary suffering so
• papancha because it involves less papancha is less suffering in the moment there's also and someone asked this in
• skillful way of looking that to a degree lesson suffering in the moment and as i said before just sustaining
• and start using that to empower the release of suffering in the moment when the awareness becomes more
• ways of looking that release reduce alleviate suffering in the moment in the moment
• and this this intimate concern with suffering dukkha whatever degree in the moment and with its causes and the
• exacerbating increasing proliferating suffering usually when they're suffering habitually we find a way of looking at
• it that that creates more problem or just keeps the suffering locked in place so rather what would it be to take up a
• third noble truth release release that suffering so the way of looking is the equivalent of the fourth noble truth
• of looking that releases suffering so there's double insight there at least
• what i've said less suffering a sense of openness comes and then things start fading

Contemplating the Three Characteristics (Part 2) - Anatta (Not Self) - (November Solitary) 14 mentions

• another term because suffering depends on self basically suffering depends on this
• suffering depends on self basically suffering depends on this notion of self that we have and this
• uh fixed sense of self so if we want to see through suffering if we want to have some relief from suffering in a deep way
• see through suffering if we want to have some relief from suffering in a deep way we actually have to really go into this
• to practical uh ways that we can move towards suffering not statements about reality
• good to it it's there's actually suffering of all this in doing this to say me or mine is actually a clenching
• say me or mine is actually a clenching and that clenching is suffering and we can actually feel that clenching when we
• whatever and that's setting ourselves up for suffering if we're if we're just trying to going for some experience it's
• to understand that there is suffering involved for us when we identify
• mine the more suffering there is the less we identify the less suffering
• the more suffering there is the less we identify the less suffering there is
• and it's also as i said it's it's dukkah it's it's uh it's suffering when we hold on as me or mine which we see that as
• on as me or mine which we see that as suffering when we identify we see it suffering not necessary it's not true
• suffering when we identify we see it suffering not necessary it's not true and it's the car

The Way of Non-Clinging (Part 3) - (Eros Unfettered - Opening the Dharma of Desire) 14 mentions

• well-wishing but also desire for decreasing suffering we could say in ourselves and hopefully in the world if
• communicates something about the end of suffering uh family all right granted it's
• craving gender hit agenda to the end of suffering etc the different kinds of clinging that would outline
• having to do or in terms of and decreasing suffering or freedom or whatever liberation
• either in the hmong or eventually to the the the less suffering or unwholesome so we can make that distinct from wholesome
• and unwholesome ones being ones that actually lead to more suffering that's one distinction but actually
• contribution to global warming and other people suffering in the world if i'm really honest i can see that's
• yes there's ease there's the ease of suffering that we're after and what and what
• which will which will be more useful of the suffering that's inherent in discrepancy based processing
• reduction or they lead to even eventually a reduction of suffering for self and other but other other desires
• has nothing to do with um releasing suffering and then what can sometimes happen if a
• and this will bring ease this will decrease or even end your suffering if you can do that
• also be constrained and not just constrained because certain sufferings won't happen constrained in all kinds of
• chunder this um intentionality uh or desire for reducing suffering for what is wholesome

The Beauty of Desire (Part 2) - (November Solitary) 14 mentions

• desire let it go let it go is there would be less suffering the suffering would begin to to bleed
• would be less suffering the suffering would begin to to bleed out to drain out of the experience of
• the consciousness the more i let go of desire the less suffering the more clinging and moving towards the
• the more clinging and moving towards the more suffering and i see that thousands and thousands
• of times and and eventually the coin drops the suffering or the 99.9 of the suffering we experience
• drops the suffering or the 99.9 of the suffering we experience as human beings is in the relationship
• of holding on then then they're suffering sam
• but still something is very important to be understood here the suffering is in the relationship
• else would happen yeah let go of desire less suffering for sure as i keep doing it i'll notice other
• less desire clinging not just less suffering but less self the very sense of separate self starts
• can we fill that out for me and she said feel resistant to others suffering to the suffering in the world
• feel resistant to others suffering to the suffering in the world uh
• wanting this resistance to being impinged on by others suffering what is it wanting and she fell into it and the
• unhasseled by it all all the suffering in the world others and their problems i want to be

Cittamatra - (Meditation on Emptiness) 14 mentions

• little bit and the point is um letting go of suffering that's the point so that's that's always the point
• of dharma practice letting go of suffering freeing ourselves from suffering to to more to deeper and
• suffering freeing ourselves from suffering to to more to deeper and deeper degrees and more and more
• of teachings over why you see that suffering needs the self as a kind of center of the solar system it's like it
• lighter and more open more refined the sense of suffering gets less this is an obvious connection or a
• moment as not me not mine well the suffering gets less so all this is um telling us what most of you have
• hard even to see the connection that self and suffering went together necessarily
• right now what do you suffer with what are you suffering with what makes you suffer in the course of
• or we find yourself in life craving something it doesn't look like suffering but we enter into a relationship but
• sooner or later with that thing causes suffering so i want a really tasty meal it's important for me to have a tasty
• relationship there's craving there it doesn't look like suffering from the outside
• but this suffering because of inherent existence and because
• report as i do that suffering decreases there's a kind of letting go and with the letting go comes
• three characteristics are ways of looking that let go of suffering but another thing that might happen with

Breath and Space - Reactivity, Emptiness, Piti (4th Instructions) - (Unbinding the Heart) 14 mentions

• very fundamental of reactivity with that reactivity comes suffering that reactivity itself is a state of
• reactivity itself is a state of suffering so it might be very very subtle
• so it might be very very subtle suffering it could be quite gross the reactivity is so strong that it's quite
• actually that is where the most of the suffering is is in the reactivity we need to be absolutely crystal clear
• when the reactivity quietens well the suffering quietens reactivity down suffering down
• suffering quietens reactivity down suffering down reactivity up suffering up
• reactivity down suffering down reactivity up suffering up really important to see this
• sensible than otherwise so reactivity less suffering less space more as i've been saying in the talks
• everything works both ways space more reactivity less suffering less do you see how well this is
• is not a problem in that's not where the suffering is the suffering is in the reactivity
• that's not where the suffering is the suffering is in the reactivity and so in dialogue we say it's empty of
• quite quickly but all that says implies a lot about suffering and where suffering comes from which is the
• a lot about suffering and where suffering comes from which is the buddha's fundamental question
• buddha's fundamental question it implies a lot about suffering but also implies a lot about so-called

An Introduction to Emptiness - (Meditation on Emptiness) 14 mentions

• cause of our our dis-ease in life are unnecessary suffering delusion and ignorance what is that
• in other words i might really want to be rid of suffering i might really want to be rid of misery and this or that
• but and i got i feel like i very much got sucked into the suffering of that and then there's something occurring to
• countries are a human social convention and and how much suffering in the history of humanity has been over
• isn't that agreement then there are the problems there's a suffering in this war and this conflict
• into emptiness right where we feel the suffering in our life right where we feel the discontent
• life and they were really really in quite a state with it really suffering quite no idea what i'm going to do with
• do with my life locked into that and suffering with the solidity and the abstraction of it
• to pay close attention to the things that i'm suffering over or the things i'm craving
• of the best ways to say is going actually via the suffering and via what what actually helps in relationship to
• existence and it's empty when i see its emptiness the suffering goes out of something
• still functions and it still has conventional existence but the suffering goes out and that as practitioners is
• but it's very important the suffering the greed the aversion what we call the chilesas in in in pali
• that's fine but they actually turn out they are suffering and the presence of greed and aversion depend on conceiving

Beauty of Desire - Talk - (Cambridge Day Retreats) 14 mentions

• one will report that there is less suffering in that time it's a conspicuous decrease and draining out of
• conspicuous decrease and draining out of the suffering felt in the mirror of any dis-ease felt in the moment
• do you understand one just one any kind of discomfort or disease or suffering it will be lessened to the degree that one
• very important insight there most most of the suffering we experience in life comes from the relationship that
• if my relationship is one of pushing away there will be suffering in that when i let go of the of the desire to
• get rid of desire to change or whatever the suffering drains out of the experience the suffering is in the
• the suffering drains out of the experience the suffering is in the relationship and not in the things
• released from cleaning feels like suffering not suffering suffering less suffering over and over and over until
• suffering not suffering suffering less suffering over and over and over until it's literally uh
• not only do i see less and less suffering and of course with that more and more openness more and more
• this in a way that relieves some of the suffering now some of you will know there's loving kindness practice where
• craving let's look at this craving and why it brings suffering and how it works i think i would say craving from this
• i feel resistant to other people's suffering i just feel like i want to block it all out
• all i want to be not troubled not impinged upon by all the suffering in the world and around me